WEDDING PASTOR DAVE & ASSOCIATES
S A N D C E R E M O N Y
UNITY SAND CEREMONY
What is it?
Unity ceremonies have been a special part of wedding vows since time immemorial. Couples from cultures around the world have used the unity ceremony as a powerful way to symbolize their love and commitment to one another in marriage.
But, until recently its always been the Unity Candle Ceremony that has received the majority of the spotlight. That all changed, however, when Trista Rehn and Ryan Sutter of the highly acclaimed "The Bachelorette" TV series decided to incorporate the Unity Sand Ceremony into their multimillion dollar wedding celebration. Their nationally televised wedding allowed couples all across the country to see just how beautiful and meaningful the sand ceremony was and inspired countless newlyweds to understand the importance of featuring it prominently in their vows.
Taking a Cue from Candlelight
The Unity Candle Ceremony has long been a tradition seen in marriages of all types, elaborate and simple. Typically, in this version of the unity ceremony, there is a single candle (the unity candle) that both bride and groom light from a flame of their own single candles. Parents or other members of the wedding party often join in the candle lighting ceremony using candles of their own, too. The shortcoming of the unity candle is that it leaves no permanent memento or reminder of the union. Once the candle has been blown out, the significance of the ceremony is left only as a fleeting memory.
This is where the Unity Sand Ceremony has so much more to offer. The Unity Sand Ceremony, a celebration that is usually two to three minutes in length, is a meaningful symbolic joining of two lives. In this timeless ritual of marriage, the couple ceremoniously pours various colors of sand from separate containers into one special container, the unity vase, symbolizing their coming together as one.
It provides a way for couples during their wedding ceremony to brilliantly show the joining of the flow of their two lives into a single stream with their individually colored sands joining as one in the Unity Vase.
Plus, because it can be displayed privately or for all to see for years to come, the symbol of the couples love is always present, always a reminder, and always a touchstone of truth. As such, the Unity Sand Ceremony and the unity vase can be treasured forever.
The Meaning of the Unity Sand Ceremony
The flowing sand and blending of the colors in the Unity Sand Ceremony symbolize the bringing together of two lives into one. The two sands symbolize everything that the bride and groom have been or will become in the future.
The blending of the sand represents the union not only of them but their friends and families as well. The separate sands once poured into the unity vase can never be put back into their separate vases. They are forever entwined just as the lives and loves of the bride and groom. Some couples prefer to leave a small amount of sand in their respective container to show that even though they now function as one, they remain individuals.
The History of the Unity Sand Ceremony and You
Our current day Unity Sand Ceremony is thought to have its origins in Native American culture, either with Hawaiian ancestors or indigenous groups from the mainland.Regardless of whether the tradition comes from the dreamy islands of the Pacific or the rich soils of North America, the reality is still the same: The Unity Sand Ceremony is mystical and romantic as well as timeless and essential. More and more couples today are recognizing the incredible value of including the Unity Sand Ceremony in their wedding ceremonies.
Thinking of a Beach Wedding?
Beach weddings are growing in popularity. Theres something very special about being outdoors, having an ocean breeze wash over you and your guests. Its very magical. Beach weddings are uniquely suited for the Unity Sand Ceremony. Im sure you would agree that beach weddings are very romantic and the Unity Sand Ceremony is a beautiful way to add meaning to your beach wedding vows. Your guests will be touched as well watching you and your beloved pour colored sands into your Unity Vase as the waves lap upon the shore.
The Essential Ingredients to Make Yours Truly One-of-a-Kind
The beauty of the ceremony is its simplicity. For example, for your Unity Sand Ceremony to be a success, you need only need two ingredients: a Unity Sand Ceremony Vase Set and Unity Sand for each of the participants.
You'll want to make sure you find a Unity Sand Ceremony vase that expresses not only the beauty of your union, but also your individuality as a new family.
The Importance of Choosing the Right Vows
Your wedding vows may be the single most important words you ever share with your spouse. They join you together and are a potent sign of two becoming one. Think about that for a moment: two becoming one! There is nothing more amazing in our world than this single bond. Congratulations!
Becoming One Flesh
The Lord God said, "It is not good for the man to be alone. I will make a helper suitable for him."
Now the Lord God had formed out of the ground all the wild animals and all the birds in the sky. He brought them to the man to see what he would name them; and whatever the man called each living creature, that was its name. So the man gave names to all the livestock, the birds in the sky and all the wild animals.
But for Adam no suitable helper was found. So the Lord God caused the man to fall into a deep sleep; and while he was sleeping, he took one of the mans ribs and then closed up the place with flesh. Then the Lord God made a woman from the rib he had taken out of the man, and he brought her to the man.
The man said, "This is now bone of my bones and flesh of my flesh;
she shall be called woman, for she was taken out of man." That is why a man leaves his father and mother and is united to his wife, and they become one flesh. (Genesis 2:18-24).
A Special Way to Honor Your Blended Family
If either the bride or the groom (or both) has children, their marriage is more than just the union of two hearts: It represents the creation of a new family. The Unity Sand Ceremony is a tremendous way to allow your children to be involved in a meaningful way in your wedding. With the Unity Sand Ceremony, you will be paying tribute to the role your children play in your lives. Children are especially drawn to using sand to symbolize the loving union of their new Mom and Dad.
In addition, you'll be celebrating the past, present, and future through this creative mixing of sand in glass a true representation of your new family integrated under a single bond of love. Besides the bride and groom and their families, you can allow other wedding members to add to the unity vase as well to create a colorful and one-of-a kind symbol of your unity, strength and love.
As you can see the rich history and powerful meaning of the Unity Sand Ceremony make it something truly original and inspiring. By adding the ceremony to your wedding day, you will be telling your loved one and all your family and friends that you are ready to make a lifetime commitment that will be filled with more happiness than you could ever imagine.
Example of the Sand Ceremony Wording
Pastor: "(Bride) and (Groom) have chosen to include this Sand Ceremony in today's proceedings.
Each of you stands before a vase of colored sand. These sand colors represent the separate life paths that you were taking, each with your distinct circle of family and friends. Then your paths crossed and a new journey has begun. Today, all of us are here to support you as you continue along this new path as husband and wife.
We have witnessed the exchanging of your wedding vows and rings. In a moment, I ask that each of you pour a small portion of your colored sand into the central vase. This will represent the separate lives that each of you once led and the foundation of your new relationship." The (Bride), followed by the (Groom), begins to pour a portion of their colored sand.
"Today, you have committed to share the rest of your lives together. Now I ask that you simultaneously pour the remaining portions of your sand into the central vase. This blending of sand symbolized your loving union and the single path you will continue to travel together. From this day forward ...
It is my sincere hope, and those here today, just as these grains of sand can never be separated and returned to their original place, so too will your journey as husband and wife remain strong and united."